Posted on May 30, 2019, 4:50 PM IST
SPARE THE ROD FOR THE BENEFIT OF YOUR CHILD
Corporal punishment has been a quick fix for disciplining children especially in India. But is this fix good enough? What might seem as a common measure of parenting has rather deeper psychological implications attached to it than just momentary pain. Dr. Robert D Sege who is a paediatrician from Boston quotes that “One of the most important relationships we all have is the relationship between ourselves and our parents, and it makes sense to eliminate or limit fear and violence in that loving relationship.”
Indian parents have been observed to reason out against any logic that opposes corporal punishment by saying that it is by far the most effective way of dealing with children here because of the joint system of families and an assortment of instructions coming from everybody at the kids. But what one needs to learn is that there is always a better way to put your word across, even with children.
Parents normally resort to spanking out of frustration when nothing else seems to work and the child continues to misbehave despite of warnings. But as a parent, one needs to be very cautious of the fact that spanking instils in the mind of a child his first imprint of aggression and violence. Also, continued use of corporal punishment warps the child’s idea of social behaviour and turns them into introverts with blunt minds. This fact has been published by an American study in the Economist. It is also reported that stress or trauma experienced in the childhood has a tendency of being passed on to the next generations. It becomes a genetic memory.
It is therefore advised to formulate and study new and innovative ways of getting your word across to your child. One must observe carefully, the actions, language and situations those tend to have the greatest impact on their child. This observation can be used to communicate the idea of discipline in a more effective way.